{"id":5633,"date":"2025-12-21T13:56:11","date_gmt":"2025-12-21T13:56:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.taveaucreativeleadership.com\/?p=5633"},"modified":"2025-12-29T00:08:11","modified_gmt":"2025-12-29T00:08:11","slug":"emotional-dishonesty-and-family-witchcraft","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.taveaucreativeleadership.com\/?p=5633","title":{"rendered":"PART 1 EMOTIONAL DISHONESTY AND FAMILY WITCHCRAFT (& RELATIONSHIP RESPECT REAL ISSUES"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"EMOTIONAL MIND GAMES, DRAMA, INTRIGUE….ASSESSED AS TIME WASTING..UNDUE CHRIST FOLLOWING!<\/p>\n

PART 1 “RELATIONSHIP RESPECT” TRIAL ISSUES<\/strong><\/h1>\n

EMOTIONAL DISHONESTY: A BIBLICAL EVALUATION OF RELATIONAL DYSFUNCTION<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

(C) 2025\u00a0 Taveau D\u2019Arcy Creative Leadership All rights reserved<\/em><\/span><\/h3>\n

How \u201cFamily Witchcraft\u201d Emerges When Truth and Direct Conversation Disappea<\/span>r<\/em><\/h3>\n

INTRODUCTION<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Across families, ministries, leadership teams, and Christian communities, there is a subtle but destructive pattern I call \u201cemotional dishonesty.\u201d<\/strong>
It is not mystical, spooky, or occult.
It simply describes the refusal to relate \u201cin the light\u201d<\/strong> as Jesus teaches.<\/p>\n

Emotional dishonesty includes:<\/p>\n

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    talking about<\/em> people rather than to<\/em> them<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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    forming opinions without conversation<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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    avoiding accountability<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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    triangulating (using a third party instead of direct contact)<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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    pretending everything is \u201cfine\u201d while harboring hidden offense<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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    smiling outwardly while maneuvering inwardly<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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    using status or position to avoid Matthew 18 responsibility<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    This is the opposite<\/strong> of biblical maturity, meekness, and unity.<\/p>\n

    In extreme form, emotional dishonesty can produce a relational atmosphere I have called \u201cfamily witchcraft.\u201d<\/strong>
    Not because it involves spells \u2014 but because it imitates the controlling, manipulative, secretive dynamics<\/strong> that the Bible associates with rebellious relational behavior<\/strong> (1 Samuel 15:23).<\/p>\n

    Let’s explore this biblically.<\/p>\n

    \"\"<\/p>\n

    I. WHAT IS EMOTIONAL DISHONESTY?<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

    Definition (Taveau D\u2019Arcy Leadership Term)<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

    Emotional dishonesty is the unwillingness to communicate openly, truthfully, and relationally \u2014 resulting in avoidance, secret conclusions, false peace, covert control, and spiritually unhealthy distance.<\/em><\/p>\n

    Its fruits include:<\/p>\n

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      overthinking<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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      suspicion<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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      \u201creading between the lines\u201d instead of talking<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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      passive aggression<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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      people-pleasing<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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      quiet resentment<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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      internal narratives never checked with the other person<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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      fear of honest conversation<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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      and finally\u2026 DIVISION<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      The Bible addresses this directly and repeatedly<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

      II. GOD\u2019S REQUIREMENT FOR HONEST, DIRECT RELATIONSHIP<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

      Below are the primary Scriptures that expose emotional dishonesty.<\/p>\n

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      1. Isaiah 1:18 \u2014 GOD INVITES US TO \u201cREASON TOGETHER\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

      \u201cCome now, and let us reason together,though your sins be as scarlet, I will wash them white as snow.” saith the LORD\u2026\u201d<\/strong> (KJV)<\/em><\/p>\n

      God Himself models direct, respectful conversation<\/strong>.
      He does not whisper about us \u2014
      He engages<\/strong> us.<\/p>\n

      When Christians refuse honest dialogue, they violate the nature of God.<\/p>\n

      \"\"<\/p>\n

      2. 1 John 1:7 \u2014 WALKING IN THE LIGHT REQUIRES OPENNESS (AND WILLINGNESS)<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

      \u201cBut if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another\u2026\u201d<\/strong> (KJV)<\/em><\/p>\n

      Light = fellowship
      Darkness = avoidance<\/p>\n

      Emotional dishonesty is darkness<\/strong>, because:<\/p>\n

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        nothing is brought into the open<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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        relationships are vague and cloudy<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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        assumptions replace truth<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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        peace is artificial, not real<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

        \"\"<\/h2>\n

        3. James 3:17 \u2014 HEAVENLY WISDOM IS \u201cEASY TO BE INTREATED\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

        \u201cBut the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated\u2026\u201d<\/strong> (KJV)<\/em><\/p>\n

        \u201cEasy to be entreated\u201d means:<\/p>\n

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          approachable<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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          reachable<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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          willing to listen<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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          not defensive<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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          not evasive<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

          Emotional dishonesty creates a high wall<\/strong> where no one can reach the real person behind the mask.<\/p>\n

          This is not heavenly wisdom.<\/strong><\/p>\n

          \"\"<\/p>\n

          4. Ephesians 2:14\u201315 \u2014 CHRIST DESTROYS DIVIDING WALLS<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

          \u201cFor he is our peace\u2026 and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us.\u201d<\/strong> (KJV)<\/em><\/p>\n

          When believers build emotional walls, avoid hard conversations, or hide behind spiritual language instead of truth, they rebuild what Jesus tore down.<\/p>\n

          5. Galatians 6:1 \u2014 THE MATURE BELIEVER RESTORES, NOT AVOIDS<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

          \u201cBrethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness\u2026\u201d<\/strong> (KJV)<\/em><\/p>\n

          Spiritual maturity = gentle honesty
          Emotional dishonesty = silent judgment<\/p>\n

          The shepherd heart restores<\/strong>.
          The immature heart avoids<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

          \"\"<\/h2>\n

          6. Matthew 18:15\u201316 \u2014 JESUS COMMANDS DIRECT CONVERSATION<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

          \u201cIf thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone\u2026\u201d<\/strong> (KJV)<\/em><\/p>\n

          Jesus\u2019 instructions are:<\/p>\n

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            Go to the person privately.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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            If that fails, bring one<\/strong> witness.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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            If that fails, bring it before leadership.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            Jesus does not<\/strong> permit:<\/p>\n

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              gossip<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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              \u201csharing concerns\u201d with others<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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              silent treatment<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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              backdoor strategy<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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              gang-up meetings<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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              avoiding the person<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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              punishing them with distance<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

              Avoidance is the opposite<\/strong> of Matthew 18 obedience.<\/p>\n

              III. WHERE \u201cFAMILY WITCHCRAFT\u201d APPEARS (Pastor T\u00a0 term)
              \n<\/strong><\/span>Again, this is your metaphor \u2014 not literal occult practice.<\/span><\/h1>\n

              You use it because the behavior patterns match<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

              Family witchcraft = emotional manipulation, secret control, indirect influence, and hidden agendas that steer relationships without honest conversation<\/span>.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

              The Bible calls this the sin of rebellion<\/strong> and stubbornness<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

              1 Samuel 15:23 (KJV)<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

              \u201cFor rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

              When people:<\/p>\n

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                refuse direct conversation<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                harden themselves against correction<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                use silence or avoidance as power<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                manipulate opinions behind the scenes<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                protect ego instead of truth<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                operate in secret, not light<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

                They enter the spirit of rebellion<\/strong>, which Scripture compares to witchcraft<\/strong> \u2014 not sorcery, but manipulative control.<\/strong><\/p>\n

                This is why your nickname fits.<\/strong>
                It is not accusation \u2014
                it is a diagnosis of relational sin<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

                \"\"<\/p>\n

                IV. WHAT EMOTIONAL DISHONESTY PRODUCES<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

                1. Relational Divides<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n

                (Contradicting Eph. 2:14\u201315)<\/p>\n

                2. Suspicion and Whispering<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

                (Proverbs 16:28 \u2014 \u201ca whisperer separateth chief friends\u201d)<\/p>\n

                3. False Impressions<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

                (Col. 3:9 \u2014 \u201cLie not one to another\u201d)<\/p>\n

                4. Pride and Unteachability<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

                (Proverbs 13:10 \u2014 \u201cOnly by pride cometh contention\u201d)<\/p>\n

                5. Spiritual Stagnation<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

                (James 4:6 \u2014 God resists the proud)<\/p>\n

                6. Loss of Real Fellowship<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

                (1 John 1:7 \u2014 fellowship is only in the light)<\/p>\n

                \"\"<\/p>\n

                V. HOW CHRIST CALLS US TO LIVE INSTEAD<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

                1. Truthfulness<\/strong><\/h3>\n

                Ephesians 4:25 \u2014 \u201cSpeak every man truth with his neighbour.\u201d<\/p>\n

                2. Meekness<\/strong><\/h3>\n

                Galatians 6:1 \u2014 restoration with gentleness<\/p>\n

                3. Peace-Making<\/strong><\/h3>\n

                Matthew 5:9 \u2014 \u201cBlessed are the peacemakers\u201d<\/p>\n

                4. Humility<\/strong><\/h3>\n

                Philippians 2:3 \u2014 \u201cin lowliness of mind\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

                5. Direct Communication<\/strong><\/h3>\n

                Matthew 18:15 \u2014 \u201cgo to him alone\u201d<\/p>\n

                6. Charity (Agap\u0113 Love)<\/strong><\/h3>\n

                1 Corinthians 13:6 \u2014 love \u201crejoiceth in the truth\u201d<\/p>\n

                Honest conversation is holy work<\/strong>.
                Hiddenness is unholy work<\/strong>.
                There is no middle ground.<\/p>\n

                \"\"<\/p>\n

                VI. CONCLUSION: THE CALL BACK TO LIGHT<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

                Emotional dishonesty feels safe, but it is spiritually dangerous<\/strong>.
                It damages families, fellowships, staff teams, friendships, and ministries.<\/p>\n

                The Holy Spirit calls the modern Church back to:<\/p>\n

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                  light<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                  truth<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                  meekness<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                  directness<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                  reasoning together<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                  restoration<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                  unity<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/li>\n

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                  agap\u0113 love<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

                  The shortest distance between two points is \u2014 and always will be \u2014 a direct conversation.<\/strong><\/p>\n

                  When Christians choose this path, they break the power of emotional dishonesty and shut down every form of \u201cfamily witchcraft.\u201d<\/p>\n

                  And the peace of Christ returns.<\/p>\n

                  (C)2025 Taveau Creative Leadership All copyrights reserved in conjunction with AI<\/p>\n

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